Blog, page 9
Research-informed articles on communication, conflict, connection and trust for couples, with sources and practical steps. Every article cites its sources and shows when it was last reviewed. Browse by topic with the categories below, or read a post that matches what you are dealing with.
Check-ins & rituals
The State of the Union Meeting for Couples, Explained
What the "State of the Union" meeting is, how to run one step by step, and how to adapt it for busy weeks.
Updated , 9 min read
Check-ins & rituals
The Stress-Reducing Conversation: How to Do It
A 20-minute daily conversation about stress outside the relationship. How to do it, what to avoid, and why it buffers couples.
Updated , 9 min read
Appreciation & connection
Turning Toward vs. Turning Away: Small Moments Matter
How you respond to everyday moments adds up. Learn the three ways partners respond to bids and how to turn toward more often.
Updated , 9 min read
Relationship science
What Makes a Relationship Last? 7 Research Findings
Seven well-replicated findings from relationship science about what helps couples last, with citations and how to apply each.
Updated , 13 min read
Check-ins & rituals
What to Do When Your Partner Won't Do Check-Ins
If your partner resists relationship check-ins, pushing harder rarely works. Ways to lower the stakes and invite them in.
Updated , 9 min read
Getting help
What to Do When Your Partner Won't Go to Therapy
Partner refuses couples therapy? Why people resist, how to invite without pressure, and how individual therapy can still help.
Updated , 10 min read
Trust & hard times
When Your Partner Is Depressed: How to Help & Cope
How to support a partner with depression, care for yourself, and know when and how to encourage professional help.
Updated , 10 min read
Getting help
Why Couples Wait Too Long to Get Help
Many couples wait years before seeking help. Why that happens, and the signs it's time to reach out now.
Updated , 10 min read